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The Scale of Emotion / Vibration and how to use it

In a vibrational universe, all things are vibrational in nature, including thoughts and emotions. Fortunately, emotions can be graphed on a scale from lowest to highest. This scale is one of the most important life tools in your toolbox. This scale is actually 3 dimensional. It represents
1) the amount of life force energy a person is allowing
2) emotional well–being
3) intelligence, intellectual ability
As you go up the scale you experience increasing amounts of all three factors. As you go down the scale, you experience less.

Excerpted from the book, The Vibrational Universe

“Barb and Jill
(The full conversation from chapter 2. Barb calls her friend Jill and discovers she is feeling down about herself. Barb uses the scale of emotion / vibration to cheer her friend up)

“What’s wrong Barb?” says Jill.
“Oh, I just don’t care anymore,” Barb says apathetically.
Jill is just about to fire off an angry comment about Thorpe, (Barb’s former boyfriend) but she realizes that apathy is very low down on the scale and doesn’t want to overwhelm her friend, so she says gently, “It’s Thorpe isn’t it?”

Emotion Attitude
Apathy “I give up.”
Propitiation “I’ll do anything to make it up to you!”
Sympathy “I feel your pain.”
Hidden Hostility He's smiling in your face and stabbing you in the back.
Callousness “Tough for you. Just do it.”
Anger Out of control, lashing out at the world.
Antagonism “Hey! Come over here and let me kick your butt!” Feistiness.
Boredom/Complacency Yawn
Conservatism “Things are fine just the way they are”
Interest “Hey that's cool!”
Enthusiasm “Wow! Let's do that again!”
Exhilaration “I feel fantastic!!!!!”
Serenity/bliss Complete connection to Source, or God force, or life-force energy. This is the feeling consciousness has in its native, non–physical state.

Fig. 2-5. The Emotional Scale

Suddenly Barb bursts into tears, an activity that used to really anger Thorpe. “Darn woman,” he’d think, “what’s wrong with her now?” But Jill knows that grief is the next harmonic of vibration up on the scale of emotions, so to her Barb’s reaction is perfectly logical. Barb is wailing on about Thorpe and how lonely and rejected she feels. Jill is a good counselor, and even though she thinks to herself, “You’re a whole lot better off without that loser honey,” she says nothing and lets Barb vent. She knows that although being around grief is uncomfortable, matching Barb’s vibration would result in failure, for two vibrations of grief would just reinforce the other, sticking both women right in it. Jill knows that only by maintaining a high emotional level can she be of any use to Barb at all.

After several minutes Barb is cried out and looks up at her friend. Jill recognizes that Barb is poised at an emotional brink; and that a word or gesture from her can send her friend up the scale, or downward again. She also knows that people can hit an emotion and pass by it very quickly on the way up or down, so she’s not sure exactly where Barb is going next, but she knows it’s going to be some version of negative emotion, and is prepared for it.

Jill says, “You had some good times together, didn’t you?” hoping to bring Barb up a little. She doesn’t say, “Still feeling sad about Thorpe?” because that might stick Barb back in grief.
Barb says, sympathetically, and a little defensively, “Yeah we did! I remember the time we went to the putt–putt golf course and he put his arms around me…”
Jill let’s Barb go on a bit, because she recognizes the emotion of sympathy, which is a little bit up from grief.

After a time Jill suggests, “Maybe you’ll meet somebody else.”

A look of anxiety comes over Barb’s face and she says, “Do you really think I can? All the guys I’m attracted to treat me like crap.”

Jill immediately recognizes the vibration of fear, and understands that it is a step up. “Yes I think you can,” she says. “You’re such a great person.”

Barb says fearfully, “I don’t think so. Thorpe didn’t think so anyway. Maybe I’m doomed to be lonely forever.”

Jill puts a little anger in her voice and says, “Remember how he cussed you out at the amusement park when you didn’t want to go on the rollercoaster?” That was a little reach by Jill, because anger is the next major harmonic on the scale, but it could backfire and put Barb right back into grief. Even if it does, Jill knows it’s not a problem, for it just means Barb needs to cry a little more and fully release it. Barb’s face is a study in emotion as she goes up to anger, down to grief and up to fear again. But Jill’s statement hit home, because Jill knows something about Barb’s life and how her friend thinks.

Barb remembers many more incidents almost as bad, and her face hardens. “That bastard,” she says.

Jill is secretly thrilled, for her regard for Thorpe is like a gooey mess on the kitchen floor, but she keeps her opinions to herself and recognizes Barb has reached callousness, and that if she’s successful, the dam will burst. Jill hates anger but she steels herself for it anyway, knowing it’s the next harmonic. After probing around a bit on that subject, Barb starts screaming. “Did I ever tell you what he said to me after I made dinner for him???@!@!!” etc. This goes on for a while as Barb recounts all the times Thorpe was mean to her. Jill is holding it together in the face of Barb’s anger, even when her friend picks up a glass of water and hurls it against the wall. Jill knows that even if the session ended right now, a lot of progress has been made, for anger is a big step up from apathy.

After a while Barb calms down and begins to tease herself about Thorpe. “Maybe I should go over to his house and put a dent in his truck.” All of a sudden she bursts out laughing, realizing that Thorpe liked his new truck, and paid a lot more attention to it, than he ever did to her.

Barb says, “Why did I ever hook up with that guy?”
Jill smiles and says, “I don’t know sweetheart, but I do know that there are plenty of guys out there a lot better than him.”
Barb says, “There better be!”

She’s feeling a lot better now and Jill suggests they go out and get something to eat. Barb is eager to talk some more to her friend and agrees. Jill hopes to get her up to at least interest on the subject of the opposite sex.