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Handling Problems -- Part I

Using the scale of emotion/vibration in problem solving.

Problems are different depending upon where youre at on the scale of emotion/vibration. A person whos depressed may have trouble just getting out of bed in the morning. A sad person is a little better off, but he or she still has very little energy to get through the day. An angry person might have lots of energy, but will probably not be very efficient. He or she will be too busy fighting others! A happy person might still have problems, but they will be of a much different nature. Such a person might have a choice between two new jobs and not be able to decide which one to take. The point is that the lower you are on the scale of emotion/vibration, the bigger your problems seem. A truly joyful person might have the problem of which one of three wonderful things to do tomorrow!

Solving problems is compounded by the fact that the lower you are on the scale of emotion/vibration, the more your intellectual function is attenuated. In other words, the lower your emotion, the stupider you are. Have you ever tried to solve a problem when you feel apathetic? When youre that low, you dont even care. The higher you are on the scale, the more resources you have to bring to a situation, and the greater is your reach into the world.

When you continue to deal with life at the same emotional/vibrational level, all of your problems look eerily selfsimilar. The same things keep happening over and over!

Theres a way out, however, and it involves inching your way up the scale. Im going to describe a process (invented by Esther Hicks) that will do that, and also why it works.

The Process

The process is called, "Which thought feels better." When things in my life are not going so well, I use this process and treat it as a game, and soon I have improved my position on the scale of emotion/vibration. Why does this work?

It works because behind every emotion are thoughts. If you don't believe that, try thinking about sad things for a while. Your emotions follow your thoughts.

At worst this process is totally harmless. At best, it can change your life!

The physics of this game are as follows:


Death Bliss

Pretend that AB represents the entire range of emotions a human being can possibly experience, from death all the way up to bliss (You can refer to the scale of emotion/vibration in the Appendix) .

It is clear that at any one time, a person is only going to be in a narrow range of the scale. In other words, you cant feel apathetic and joyful at the same time. The lower you are are on the scale, the more fixed emotionally you are. In other words, its a lot easier to move from interest to exhilaration than it is to go from apathy to anger.

So at any one time you only have access to a small range of the scale. Lets say your emotional/vibrational range is CD:


Lets zoom in on this:

- ____C________O_________D+

For the sake of analogy, I have labeled one part of the scale "-" and the other part "+" to indicate that C is the lower end of your usual range and D is the higher end. The process works the same no matter where you are on the scale.

Let's say that your average mood is in the middle at O. This indicates your predominant vibration, or, as Esther Hicks says, your set point.

Let's say that you are sick and tired of being where you are. Lets say that CD is somewhere too 'low' on the scale for you, and it just doesn't feel good to be there anymore.

You can play the game "What thought feels better." Just reach for the idea or thought that feels best to you, as close to D as you can get in your range. You keep doing this until you gradually move O a little bit up the line. Now your vibrational range looks like this:

- ___C___F___O____D____G__ +

You now have access to a slightly higher range of vibration, FG. Your average feeling (O) has gone slightly higher up the scale and you feel better. Because you have raised your tone, you arent mucking about in the lower vibrations at C anymore.

For example, lets say youre feeling depressed because you have not yet gotten a response from the job interview you had last week. Naturally your thoughts tend toward the idea that you aren't going to get it, and you know youve got to quit your present job because you just cant stand to work there anymore. You want to feel as cheerful as you can about your prospects, but your worry keeps dragging you down the scale.

You can play the game like this: "I will GET that job." That didn't do anything, just reminded you of the fact that you haven't gotten it yet. So you try something else. "I interviewed for the job I have now and I got it." That still doesn't make you feel any better. It just reminds you that you're in a job you don't like! Now is the time when it's tempting to quit. It seems like you're feeling worse, not better. But you press on. "Lots of people get good jobs every day." That feels a LITTLE better, but not much. It still reminds you that someone else could get that job you want! Then you think "If I don't get this job there are other jobs I can get." That feels a little better. "I know people who are very happy at work." Now things are starting to move just a little toward the positive. Like a car stuck in the snow, you can feel yourself rocking out of the rut as you apply the accelerator. "If I get the job, I'll be happy, and if I don't there is another good job out there somewhere for me." Now that is starting to feel good. You have raised your tone and the importance of the pending job seems less important.

Dont underemphasize the power of raising your emotional tone. When you raise your vibration, you set yourself up for a lot more synchronicity.

This game can be played with any situation in life. I have found that it helps me to feel a lot better and focuses my attention somewhere other than worry and anxiety.

What's great about this process is that the next time you begin to think about your pending job, you will pick up on the emotion of where you last left it. So now you will be higher up on the scale. In other words, you don't lose the hard work you have done in raising your tone; you don't have to start over every time. That would suck, because its always hardest at the beginning.

I have applied this process to many areas of my life and after a while it gets to be almost like magic, but it really isn't. It's just simple physics the frequencies that you attract are those that match where you are.

A good analogy to this process is a computer boot-up sequence. Within the BIOS chip on your computer's motherboard is a small program that gets loaded just after your computer turns on. These are a series of routines called the Basic Input-Output System.

These routines load into physical memory, and enable the computers Central Processing Unit to communicate with the other devices in the computer, like the hard drive, the keyboard, the mouse, video monitor card, network card, and all of the other chips in the chip set on your motherboard. The computer cant really do anything yet, but its booting up to allow you to eventually be able to use it.

This BIOS loading is equivalent to you incarnating in your body at birth.

At birth you have the ability to move your body around (a little bit!), ingest primitive foodstuffs and that's about it. You are pretty much useless. The same with the computer at this stage.

After this program loads, the system can access the hard drive where the Operating System resides.

The BIOS loads into memory a small boot-up program that begins to load crucial files from the operating system. The computer is raising the level of its capabilities, little by little.

The computer's accessing of the hard drive to get more and more data is similar to the game of "what thought feels better." Just as the computer reaches to the hard drive for more data, so too do you reach for the vibration that feels better to you.

At first there is very little movement.

The computer just begins to load basic OS files. It still can't do much, but it is getting smarter and smarter. So too with this game. At first you can hardly find anything at all to feel good about. But even at the beginning, just the effort to reach for a better thought is doing you a world of good, even if it doesnt feel like it. You are overcoming the inertia of your present emotion and making it possible to inch up the scale.

The computer loads another, more sophisticated boot-up program and more operating system files are loaded. Now it can begin to download everything it needs on the hard drive in earnest, until the computers entire operating system is loaded.

The important point is that the computer DOESN'T GIVE UP.

Even though it is pretty stupid at the beginning, it just keeps on pushing forward, knowing that all of the stuff it needs is right there on the hard drive.

So too with vibrational raising. You can always find one that feels better if you don't like where you are.

As you continue the process, you will feel better and better, but even if you give up toward the beginning, you have still done a lot of good. You have, at least slightly, raised your overall tone.

And the next time you try it, it will be slightly easier.

Eventually, if you continue the process to a point where you actually feel better, you don't have access to those old vibrations anymore:

- C__F__D__G___H___O___I___B +

Now your average, O, is between H and I. Your low point is now at H, which is higher than your previous high point.

You don't have access to the lower frequencies anymore, because the universe has the property that 'like attracts like.' When you begin to feel better, you attract vibrations of like kind. People and situations around you change for the better.

I'm giving this simplified analogy to point out that you don't have to go to C and try to resolve everything at C. That's what most of us are taught to do, even in therapy. The more you focus on the vibrations at C, the more you move your overall vibrational range down to C!

The more you concentrated your thoughts at D, by reaching for the thought that feels better, the more you moved your range upward. If we apply this idea to problems, we can see immediately that if the problem is at C, resolving the problem usually sticks you right back at C! That's because your predominant vibration was at C, otherwise the problem wouldn't have shown up there in the first place. And the more time you spend resolving the problem, the more time you spend practicing the vibration at C. So every time you solve a problem, you wind up getting another one just like it. Of course you need to resolve the problem when it turns up, but dont forget to practice raising your tone afterward. Realize that if you keep getting the same problems over and over, that's where your set point is.

The benefit of using this process is that when you raise your set point up to HI from CD, you simply no longer have access to the vibrations at CD. You may still have problems, but they are much easier to handle!


The Scale of Emotion / Vibration



Adapted from "Beyond Psychology: An Introduction to Metapsychology" by Frank A. Gerbode. M.D.




Giving Up
Making Amends
Complete turning over of your will to another


"I'll do anything to make it up to you!"
""There, there, poor dear, it's all right.""


Hidden Hostility
He's smiling in your face and stabbing you in the back. Two-faced, dishonest, says one thing and then does another.
No Sympathy
"You made your own bed, now go sleep in it."
Out of control; lashing out at the world


Positive emotion

Antagonism is the border between nagative emotion and positive emotion

"Hey! Come over here and I'll kick your butt!"
"Things are fine just the way they are"
"I like that. Let me see!"
"Wow! Let's do that again!!"
"I feel fantastic!!!"
Serenity / bliss
Complete connection with the God self and a feeling of oneness with all life
Adapted from "Beyond Psychology: An Introduction to Metapsychology" by Frank A. Gerbode. M.D.

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