Responsibility
is associated with "pulling your weight" and keeping your
word, and is often used as a measuring stick of someone's
character. "That guy doesn't take responsibility for his
area, " is something we hear at work, and we use the
whiplash of responsibility with our children, in order to
teach them how to be good citizens at home and in life.
The concept of
responsibility, however, has within it a disconnect. If a
person is doing what he or she really wants, there is no
feeling of responsibility. It's just fun, and under these
conditions we do things for the love of doing them, and they
are done well. The best artists, workmen, athletes or
businesspeople, etc. are always those who love doing what
they do!
A
responsibility is a duty or obligation. A duty or obligation
has within it some element of resistance, otherwise it would
be undertaken with an attitude of zest and joy. There is
some diminution of free will choice as well. In modern
society, it is said, responsibilities are inevitable. One
must get a job, raise children, pay taxes, the list is long.
When one takes on too much responsibility, stress is the
result. That’s because a feeling of “having to” inevitably
accompanies assigning of responsibility, whether it’s
self–assigned, or assigned by a parent, teacher, boss,
spouse, or society. This feeling leads to a disconnect from
personal desires, and a denial of self. We’ve seen what
happens when desires are squelched in
Selfishness.
Personal
responsibility comes into play only after a person has
disconnected and needs to be motivated.
Diagrammatically:
Responsibility ----> duty or obligation ------> doing
things because we have to ------> disconnect from source
-----> denial of self
Ultimately, no
one can truly be responsible for another. All beings are
sovereign. No matter how hard you try, it is not possible to
override the free will of another. This very important
concept is not understood on our planet. If it were, our
societies would be much less hierarchical politically and
economically.
In our
vibrational model, the focusing of consciousness (see
The Human Energy Field) guarantees that the universe’s
operating system interfaces with all beings on an
individual basis. Therefore, you can never be truly
responsible for another, or the results another gets. So
give it up! Instead of assigning responsibility, allow
desires. Find out what your children or your workers really
enjoy doing, and assign tasks accordingly. Get people's
agreement to do things. If you approach life this way, you
can even get your kids to willingly take out the garbage --
no joke!!! -- I've seen it. Assigning of responsibility
becomes unnecessary because things are being done through
free will choice and desire to do so. And performance goes
off the chart.
People use the
idea of responsibility to enforce punishment. The idea is
that a person, if not disciplined, can "get away with
murder." However, the Law of Attraction is the ultimate
guarantor of responsibility. The Law of Attraction matches
vibration so that a cruel person will inevitably experience
cruelty. No punishment or assignment of responsibility is
necessary! Life disciplines everyone, without exception, at
all times. So relax. Jerks always get their just deserts.
You might say,
"You're nuts! Without a sense of responsibility, sloppy work
gets done. Would you rather have responsible workmen put up
your new kitchen cabinets, or irresponsible ones?" It might
also be said that the feeling of pride one gets from
overseeing a project is all about responsibility. If you
are in charge, it's your job to make sure everything is
right and there is great satisfaction in that. True enough.
But the feeling of satisfaction or pride doesn't come from
the assignment or assumption of responsibility.
Responsibility is accountability. It is based solely on the
results achieved, not upon the intentions of those involved.
Responsibility goes something like this: 'I am held
accountable for the success of this project. If all goes
well, I will feel great, but if it doesn't go well, I have
let the team down'. There is an orientation of disconnect,
of fear, even if only a little bit! For a person to get
himself into such a position in the first place is an
indication that there is not full eagerness for the task
ahead.
Responsibility
has nothing to do with the quality of the job, or the
quality of anything, for that matter. It's the sense of
connection to your own desire and the wish to do a good job
that generates a feeling of pride in your work. Integrity of
workmanship is all about the connection to your inner self.
Responsibility is assignment of performance, and
becomes necessary when there is a diminution of affinity for
the task at hand. The real cause of a superb cabinet
installation or a successful project is the personal pride
in workmanship, or the love of teamwork, not the feeling of
responsibility. The feeling of responsibility is like
getting a kick in the butt. 'Boy I want to get this done
right or I won't feel so good about myself.' That sort of
thing. Have you ever seen a person who has a job that is
their life's work? Ask such a person what attitude they take
toward their work. The answer will inevitably be: "I do it
because I love it."
When one is
truly acting from the heart, from a true connection to ones
own desire, there is a never a feeling of responsibility.
Responsibility, far from building character, detracts from
it, because it proceeds from a denial of self.
Responsibility
is important in a society in which individuals are
disconnected. A world which believes that self–awareness
comes from physical structure is already inverted upon the
most fundamental principle of life. Denial of the First
Principle results in beliefs, and therefore societies, that
are backwards. Nowhere is this more prominent than in the
medical profession. In the United States, there are more
diseases and more sick people than ever in our history,
despite the claimed advances of medicine.
If children
were allowed to find their own interests in school, instead
of being herded like cattle into classrooms with “one size
fits all” curriculums, all would be in perfect balance. But
people are not encouraged to follow their own perfect inner
guidance, because there is no trust in the inherent goodness
of man. The social sciences, our religions, our
philosophies, our governments and economies are all built
around the idea that human nature is primitive, greedy and
selfish and that desires are base. Therefore, it is said,
there must be direction and control from above.
Foolishly, most individuals have agreed and have given up
their power.
In such a
bollixed environment, responsibility becomes important in
order to keep the economic wheels turning. Someone has to be
the checkout person at the grocery store, to drill for oil,
to dispose of the garbage, to work in the factories, etc etc
etc in order to keep everyone supplied with material needs.
We then tell our children "You can't always do what you
want. Life isn't all fun and games. Get used to it," thus
perpetuating the warping of society away from true
connection to self. Control from above is legalized in our
governments and court systems, all of which reflect a
hierarchy of power and control of individual citizens.
Responsibility
comes from the idea that people are not capable of knowing
what they want. The thinking is that if persons did only
what they wanted, chaos would be the result. But there would
NOT be chaos, because Law of Attraction will always act to
match up needs and desires. It’s sad, because almost all of
us have bought into the ‘control from above is necessary’
scenario. We have accepted the idea that we are primitive
pieces of meat, savages with a thin veneer of civilization
grafted over the top of a fundamentally barbaric human
nature. We observe this behavior, however, only because we
believe it’s true. Action always follows thought. Our
societies exist within a prison of self–limiting thought,
like dogs trapped within ‘invisible fences.’
The difference
between a society where citizens are acting from true, inner
desire and from responsibility is an abundant, joyful
population as compared to a hard working, struggling one. If
people often don't know what they want, it is because they
have squelched their natural desires. Those desires are
always pure and balanced, because they come from the inner,
divinely-connected self.
Let's take a
school principal and a school teacher. Most would say that
the principal is responsible for the teachers under her
care, and for the academic excellence of the student body,
and that the teacher is responsible for all of the children
in his class. The principal and teachers are therefore
assigned statistical goals: so many students must achieve at
or above a certain score on standardized tests. If the
teacher is teaching because he loves it, he will feel only
joy educating his students, and his students will respond by
learning to the best of their ability. But if he is there
because it's just a job, there will be resentment at having
to deal with unruly kids, and the children will not perform
up to their potential. If the principal loves managing the
school, she will attack her job with zest and joy and school
performance will be at its peak. If she is there just to
raise test scores, her performance must suffer in
comparison. What kind of teacher would you rather have, one
who teaches for the sheer joy of it, or one who "feels
responsible" for your learning? Think over in your mind all
of the teachers you have ever had. Which were the best
ones? Who were the persons you most liked to work for? Who
were the best workmen? Who was your favorite parent?
Many people
think that assigning responsibility is the only way to get
people motivated. There must be consequences for not getting
results, they say, otherwise people will slack off. This
system is based on fear, and it will work for a little while
–– until people get tired of feeling beaten down. Then,
inevitably, performance falls off drastically and people go
into apathy. This is because free will has been diminished,
leading to a squelching of the desire to do well. Now we are
just working "for the boss" or so we don't get fired, or to
jack up some statistic on a balance sheet.
People with
lots of responsibility are often under a great deal of
stress. That is because responsibility is always results
oriented, and little leeway is allowed for intent. If you
don't meet some performance criteria you are judged a
failure, and often censured, even if your intentions are the
best.
Desire is life
force. When desire is low, life force is low and people just
can't do well under those conditions. People actually get
sick under those conditions! The only results that ever come
from an assignment of responsibility are those which result
from a person's free will choices and connection to their
true desire. So it's far more efficient just to skip the
whole responsibility thing, and just get people doing things
they really like!
Common wisdom
has it that "responsibility builds character."
Translated: 'Do things you don't like, because you have to,
while being disconnected from your true self. Struggle and
suffer and you will be a better person.' Well, maybe.
There is always benefit in testing yourself, coming out the
other side. But when tasks are undertaken because of an
affinity for them, no struggle is involved. Hard work
maybe, lots of hard work even. But it’s joyful work!
Taking on a
challenging project and seeing it through because you
really want to is what builds character. The suffering, that
is all unnecessary. Struggle and pain never does anyone any
good, it's just an estrangement from who you really are.
Connection to life force energy is what motivates and gets
results. It is the source of genius and creativity. Struggle
is a separation from that. All struggle is therefore
unproductive. The most inefficient workers are always those
who are working hardest. The best ones are getting results
effortlessly.
Challenge builds character only if it is based on true
connection. Overcoming a challenge is just creation. I
wonder if Michelangelo felt a sense of responsibility when
he created his gorgeous Pieta`? More than likely he was
highly motivated based on a tremendous connection with his
divine inner self!
If you are
taking responsibility for something, you have already gone
down the path of denial of self, even if only a little bit.
When people want you to do something you don't really want
to do, often they will lay a guilt trip on you: "well, what
if everyone was as selfish as you?" or some such. But what
they are really saying is: "I want you to do this to satisfy
MY selfish interests!" This happens in the workplace all the
time. And parents do this a lot with their children.
Parents might
say that not to take responsibility for their children's
well-being is criminal. Taking care of the child is of
course necessary, but you shouldn't feel responsibility for
the child. If you are raising a child for any other reason
than you love to do so, then of course you must feel
responsible. Children will do things parents don't like,
but it is not the job of any parent to direct the child's
life. All children are sovereign beings, they just happen to
have small bodies. And they are usually at a vibrational
place far above their parents. Parents have an agenda they
feel they should teach their children: 'here is where I
screwed up. Watch out for this, make sure you don’t do
that….." etc etc etc. But children don't need to hear how
parents screwed up! The child is born into a different
time, a different energy, than the parent. Every child has
his or her own life path, and the best thing a parent can do
is allow and support the child's own purposes in life.
Children will
not behave irrationally unless they pick up on that vibe
from their parents. Well-meaning parents get the child
hung-up on the parent's own difficulties. Fathers
especially like their sons to follow in their footsteps. Now
the child is resonating as the parent, and by Law of
Attraction, may have similar experiences.
When
responsibility is used as a character development or
teaching tool, the idea –– well- meaning ––- is to get a
person to see that there are consequences to actions.
However, it’s more accurate to say "everyone is responsible
for their own vibration," for it is your vibrational
offering which the universe will answer, every time. People
are always "responsible" for what they do, for action always
follows thought and it is thought that determines your
vibration that Law of Attraction will match. Beating people
over the head with responsibility just makes them feel
worse and more disconnected. Better to explain the operation
of Law of Attraction, and let a person discover the
immutability of this law for themselves. When a person truly
understands Law of Attraction, it will never again be
necessary to get them to "behave." He or she will realize
that life provides all the discipline necessary for
appropriate action. The consequences of breaking universal
laws are severe and uncompromising, and justice is never
lacking!
Responsibility
only comes into play when people don't follow their inner
guidance. The teaching of responsibility helps to disconnect
people from this guidance, by promoting the idea that "there
are just some things in this world you have to do, even if
you don't like them."
Paradoxically,
the more "responsibility" a person takes, the more
disconnected he or she will become. Effective motivation
comes from within, from a connection to divine inner self.
Assignment of
tasks is effective only if there is agreement from all
concerned. An understanding of the Law of Attraction can
lessen reliance on the idea of responsibility, while
increasing morale and production in any endeavor.
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