How should I
deal with my problems? This is a question I have asked
myself over and over again. There isn't any worse feeling
for me than having something in my life I don't like. I
always have the urge to get rid of it NOW. I want to get
into action right away to fix it. But when I do I always
find myself mired in crap and the situation gets worse.
Every time I put out one brush fire, another one pops up
somewhere else.
I have
discovered that when a problem arises, the first thing to
do is ignore it. That sounds weird, but there is a good
reason for this. If you try to solve the problem with the
same energy that created the problem, you're going to
exacerbate the problem. Therefore you have to ignore the
problem long enough to get yourself on a new track of
thought that transcends the problem. Otherwise, you go on
like this:
The more you
try to solve the problem, the more attention you give to it.
The more attention you gave to it, the more energy you flow
at it and the more power you give to it. Now you find
yourself in an energy stream which is the energy of the
problem grown bigger. Now you've made it worse!
By ignoring the
problem, I take my attention off it and so lessen the
current of energy I am sending to it.
I always create
my problems. I'm really good at it. A problem is just an
energy stream I am sending to something I don't want. So
when that happens, I try to stop the flow.
So the first
step in handling a problem is ignoring it.
The second step
is playing the game: 'what do I want to create instead of
the problem, that feels better than the problem.' You are
always giving attention to something, so why not send
energy to something you want?
The Law of
Vibration states that one can never deactivate a problem ––
trying to get rid of something just activates it. You
deactivate something unwanted by focusing on something
wanted. Like the tuning fork that has been struck, if left
alone its vibration will gradually cease. Because we are
conscious beings, our attention must be on something, and so
our vibrational signal to the universe is always activated
on whatever it is we pay attention to. We do not live like
hermits -- the daily exposure to family, work, friends, and
whatever we observe around us is bound to get our attention.
You can focus
on problems or desires. The key to working with problems is
to deactivate the vibrations within you that are causing the
problem to manifest in the physical universe in the first
place. In other words, problems are visualized as caused by
something outside yourself, but that's not true. The
SYMPTOMS of the problem are in the physical universe. The SOURCE
of the problem lies within you, because the laws of the
universe respond to you. Your life is a reflection of your
state of being.
All right, so
how do you place your attention on something good, when
you're feeling rotten? I don't know about you, but when I
feel lousy the last thing I want is some smiling idiot in my
face, telling me to cheer up!
I just ask
myself, what feels better, right now? Even if I'm depressed
there is always SOME tiny little thing that feels better.
It's an effort sometimes because when I'm inside a problem
it takes quite a bit of effort to drag myself out of the
energy loop I have created. It often feels better just to
wallow around in the problem, for at least that energy is
familiar (even if it feels rotten), but doing that will get
me nowhere. I'm like a hamster on a treadmill.
I just look for thoughts and feelings that feel better to
me. Eventually I can pull myself out of the rut. (In the
next article we'll discover how to do this in more detail).
This is very difficult to do, impossible almost, if you do
not understand the Universal Operating System. I used to
think that problems were just a part of my life, that I
would always be dealing with messes. I wouldn't even bother
to try to cheer myself up because I was too cynical about
life. I knew that if I tried to focus on the positive, it
would inevitably lead me to feeling more negative. I just
didn't understand the Law of Attraction.
The physics of
a problem look like this. Here's me, the Source or director
of my energy. I have lots of long-established
patterns of thought (the *'s).
Inside my head,
it looks like a circular racetrack. Start anywhere on the
track and you just keep going round and around, and never get
off the track of the problem. When you're really stuck in a
problem, all of your solutions never go outside the box. The
difficulty with problems is that all of your thoughts are
constrained to a limited, restricted range of solutions, all
of which are at the vibration of the problem itself.
For instance, a
typical thought pattern I had on the problem of money went
something like this:
“How do I get
more money? I can only work so hard so my income is limited.
Yes, but you could hire more people. But I don't want to
have to deal with their screw-ups, and besides there's
health insurance and workmen's compensation and taxes to
take care of. Ok, then don't hire anyone. Yeah, but how am I
going to make more money if I don't bid out more work?” etc.
Here's me at
various different positions on the track, trying more and
more different ways to 'solve' my problem:
________O_____________O____
(__O_________O______O______)
“Well, maybe I
could start a new business,” I say to myself. “Or change
jobs. Or go back to school and learn a new skill. Or...”.
Sometimes I acted on these ideas, but nothing ever came of
them, for I was not envisioning in a way that would lead to
success. I was too immersed in the energy of the problem!
The situations
were slightly different each time, but the feeling (and the
result) was usually always the same: a bad experience. Then
I said: “Reality sucks for me. I can never seem to (fill in
the blank).”
I found myself
examining the energy structures I set up and I can tell you
that they all suck. All of them are old patterns of thought
and emotion that I was just so TIRED of re-living over and
over again. Well, I decided to apply my little theorem of
first ignoring them. At first I was afraid because I didn't
know if something worse might happen to me! Maybe I was, by
my old habit patterns, just warding off even worse stuff
that was on the way. But it turns out that by ignoring the
problems, everything got gradually better. Now that was a
revelation. How could things get better if I wasn't working
on solving my problems???
Then I had the
realization: because the energy of life is positive and
wonderful, and it is flowing through me in every moment.
This was one of those defining moments that can change a
life around. It certainly did for me. I realized that the
universe was benevolent, well ordered, created and
maintained by a universal force that is benign and
positive, and that I was a part of all of it.
I realized it’s
only my resistance to the well-being that is flowing to me
in every second that caused my difficulties in the first
place!
That there was
a big one for me. I was always taught that 'reality' was
tough, that I had to fight my way through life to get
anything done. Well, it's not true at all.
The second
realization I had was that THE ENERGY OF MY PROBLEM ISN'T
WHO I AM.
I always
thought that because I was feeling rotten, I must be a
rotten person. That the energy of the problem must be the
energy of who I am. But that's not true at all! I CREATED
the energy of the problem, but the problem isn't me. My
difficulty was in mis-identification of myself with my
problem. I think this is a common occurrence for a lot of
people.
After realizing
that, things got a lot simpler for me. Maybe it can for you
too.
It seems
strange to ignore problems, but that is the only way to
ensure you never have any more of them. Handle whatever is
in your face, and then begin to use the power of the Law of
Vibration and the Law of Attraction. Don't give potential
problems any more of your attention and see what happens.
Deactivate the source of the problem by placing your
attention on something that feels better.
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