The universal mosaic is busy matching up all of the vibrational signals people send out, and so everything stays in balance. People who like the same things get together. Jobs, friends, lovers, all come to you in response to how you think and feel about them. Matter itself is formed on this principle: it comes together because the particles/energies that compose it are, you might say, “like-minded.”
The default condition of the universe is to give you exactly what you are focused upon, regardless of what you want.
If I say I want lots of money, but most of the time talk about not having it, then I am creating lack of money. Same for anything else in life: “Oh, I can never find a committed partner!” Jill cries.
“No, you have it all wrong,” Jill says. “I’m not creating the lack of a committed partner. I’m just observing that I can never find one.”
No. Something in Jill’s conscious focus is causing her to find the wrong person. There are billions of people on the planet. Surely, there is at least one who is right for her!
What Jill wants and what she is focusing on are different, so Jill gets what she is giving the predominance of her attention to. What Jill is paying attention to is the signal she is broadcasting to others and to the universe. What Jill wants is just sitting quietly in the background.
So, the default condition for anyone’s life is their focus and their expectations. Jill expects to have failures in relationships, so she does. Bill expects not to have enough money and bitches quite a bit about it, so he never has enough.
The point is, it doesn’t matter why a person gets themselves into a groove of low expectations. The nature of life is just the matching of vibrations. This allows a person to be in control of their life, merely by changing the focus of their thoughts and expectations. It’s an empowering way to run a universe. If vibrational matching wasn’t a universal law, nothing could get organized, for all things would be out of balance in a random, disorganized chaos.