The Most Important Relationship

(Inspired by Marshall Vian Summers)

If your affection for God is restrained by your condemnation of the world, your affection towards other people will be restrained by your condemnation of their behavior. This is why you must consider your relationship with God before you consider any other relationship.”

Marshall Vian Summers

There are words of wisdom that affect everyone in the world today. The world is in trouble because so many of us have lost our divine connection. Indeed, the scientific materialism that is being pushed on the world encourages us every day to ignore our deeper connection. It says, “You are a meat body. You are your race and your gender. That is all you are.”

This “philosophy” treats human beings like apps, and generates separation, intolerance, and hatred.

The primary relationship of any person is their relationship to the Creator, for the Creator, with your agreement, put you in the world to accomplish your own particular mission. That mission may be very small, or great.

The scope of your mission in the world is irrelevant.

Many people think they are failures because they have not done something great. Consider the idea that God may not want you to do great things.  Your job may be simply to live quietly and let others see your unique imprint in the world (in order to do that you have to express yourself). In this way others might question their own role in the world, and how to accomplish it. In this way you influence others to look within and find a personal relationship with God.

Without this relationship a person will be confused, angry, intolerant, and/or dissatisfied.

 Only a very, very few people can do great things. That is because greatness is a very small subset in comparison with everything else. If everyone were “great,” then greatness is common.

Greatness isn’t defined by what you accomplish in life. That is an agenda. God doesn’t have an agenda, other than to transform the physical world into something resembling our Ancient Home, the place where all souls come from and will return.

Therefore, no matter what you do, look for the divine connection within yourself. This connection establishes a feeling of personal power and contentment, no matter how much you have or don’t have.

God Is Not Esoteric

God isn’t esoteric. Your relationship with God isn’t esoteric. It’s something vital and necessary for success in the world, for without it you constantly look outside to others for guidance, instead of finding the real satisfaction that comes from your soul mission.

Yet God is not an object or a physical body, and that’s a good thing. Objects and bodies are judged; even the most beautiful object or body is never perfect. Therefore it is not possible to have a perfect relationship with anything in the world. However, it is possible to have a perfect relationship with God, for our judgments of God, our limiting ideas about God, can’t stick. God is a Presence. Even though God may not be visible as a physical object, that Presence is all around you and in you all the time.

Therefore, it is much easier to have a relationship with the Creator than with anything in the world. Once even a tiny sliver of this relationship is established, life’s difficulties can resolve.

 A relationship with the Creator gives us purpose, for we then know our soul mission. Those who deny the Creator (and thus themselves, for the body is the physical representation of the soul) must create substitutes in order to have purpose in life. This is how we get agendas and strife, and conflict, for the essence of the Creator is harmony and cooperation.

Without the connection to the Presence, you substitute ideas about life. These ideas, of course, are not shared by everyone else. Therefore there is conflict, for there is the impulse to make others conform to your ideas. This results in creating a sort of prison around others, for you cannot be happy unless they conform to your ideas about how the world should be. This causes   personal anger, for others seem stupid in comparison to your personal box of beliefs. They just don’t “get it.” If carried far enough, this may result in rioting in the streets and discord on social media!

Acting without at least a minimal connection to the Creator creates a prison around others, and around yourself.

Everyone Has a Different Life Purpose

How can you know your soul mission (or anything about yourself) without a connection to the Creator? The life mission may be very, very different for each person.

There are many large-souled persons on this planet with great wisdom, and who act in accordance with God. Some of these people may seem brusque or even confrontational, but in a world of low consciousness, sometimes this is needed. I try not to confuse antagonism necessarily with bad behavior. When one confronts evil, for example, one may need to exercise physical force.  Those who can do this successfully are almost always even-tempered and are acting from a very strong connection to God. These people are blessed indeed, and their strong purpose is easily seen. Their centered-ness is obvious, they exude great power. These are people who have found a strong soul connection to the Creator. These are the spiritual warriors.

One of the characters in my new book, a former Special Forces member and mercenary, is arguing with a young woman after he killed Lucas Cernovitz, a man who was running a child trafficking network.

“Killing blackens your soul,” the woman insists.

Ralph shakes his head. “A warrior knows that life is temporary, and is unafraid to die. Me and Cernovitz understood that; we played a game and he lost. We are all warriors, it’s just that almost no one understands this.”

The Ralph character is saying that the physical experience is just a game. We all go back Home when we die. Even mass murderers. “What happens on earth stays on earth.” Everyone goes back to the Creator because the Game is rigged so that all endings are happy endings. All souls return to God. All of them, without exception. When the chess piece gets killed in the game it is removed from the board. When a new game starts it is placed back on the board for a fresh start.

In chess, is the opposing king evil? Are the most powerful pieces on the other side of the board more evil in proportion to their power to act? Or, perhaps, are they there to facilitate the game being played?

Conflict is just a misunderstanding: We need opponents to grow in experience and wisdom. Your opponent isn’t your enemy, he or she is simply another player in the Game of Life who may, temporarily, have a different agenda than you do (I tell myself this all the time because it isn’t easy for me to do this), and who is there to teach you something. Conflict arises when we assign the other pieces on the board an evil aspect. There is enough true evil in the world without making more!

It doesn’t work out well in the physical universe when angry people try to solve the world’s problems. These people simply create confusion. Pointless killing and chaos is the result when people who have no connection to God try to solve problems.

We Are All Spiritual Warriors

The true spiritual warrior may be required to confront evil, but does so with a purpose and keeps his or her head. They always create a result that is accepted by almost everyone, even if violence is necessary. In other words, the situation is calmed when they are done. There are very few of these people in the world because this is an almost impossible task. They are the great ones, the spiritual warriors. They are instantly recognizable by their connection to God. Inside, they are peaceful.

Not all of us can be Ghandi’s. Even Christ physically threw the moneychangers out of the temple. “This house is my house, you have turned it into a den of thieves.” Yeah, Christ said, get the fuck out. Success depends on how centered and peaceful you are inside.  I imagine that when Christ threw out the money-grubbers, he did so in a centered manner, not in an out-of-control way.

Sananda was not a chanting weakling. He was a healer, but also a man prepared to confront anything in the physical universe. (I’m not personally capable of doing that, but I don’t criticize others who do, as long as I see that connection to God. In order to see that connection, you have to be connected yourself.)

Today’s metaphysics focuses exclusively on passive peace and love. There’s definitely a place for that, but there’s also a place for the spiritual warrior.

The point is that everyone has a different soul mission. This can only be understood by people who themselves have a connection to God. And by connection to God I don’t mean, “There is only one way to redemption/enlightenment and that is (place dogma here).”

The World Is a Place to Work

There is a difference between the soul’s home in the One consciousness and the physical world. The Home of the soul is a place of being. The world is a place of doing and action. Yet  one of the purposes of a physical incarnation is to bring the Presence of God into the world. This can only be done through a state of Being. Only a person who has this connection can do that. Fortunately, it’s easy to recognize the connection to God. God is pure affinity and a sense of belonging and inclusiveness that feels RIGHT. When you feel like that you are contacting the Presence of God, which is embedded directly into your DNA.

So – it seems counter-intuitive, but the most important relationship for an individual is the relationship to God, for every individual on earth – even people we don’t like – is a piece of God. The Presence of God is the common denominator of all human beings.

You Are Here on Purpose

You are in the world exactly where you are supposed to be. Your birth was not an accident: God didn’t randomly shove you into your body.  You are not a victim of your birth.

A materialist will never understand this, of course, because a materialist is subtly oriented toward victimization. His or her birth is random, a shaking of the cosmic dice; it is a thing to be carped at and criticized if one is born the wrong gender, or in poverty, or in a place where injustice prevails.

Back Home, before you came here, you chose your parents, you chose your place of birth, you came in with a soul mission to help the world.

The world is not a place that is set up to satisfy your every desire and idea about how things should work. The world is a place that allows 8 billion people to have free will. The world needs your help, but it isn’t waiting for you to change it. It’s waiting for you to be the change you desire for the world. 

And finally, consider the idea that what you have to share isn’t for everyone. If your creative project is going nowhere, perhaps you have not yet found the correct audience for it. It is never a good idea to present ideas to a group that is hostile to them, for you will merely engage in conflict, stir up emotions, and not convince anyone. And in the process, your personal creativity will be squelched. When you have found the correct audience – those people God has sent you here to teach – what you have to offer will be examined without screaming and yelling! Oh, there may be plenty of disagreement, but this should be welcomed, for those who need your ideas may be off on the wrong path and looking for your guidance.

When you have found the right audience you will not be met with hostility, but with curiosity and the expectation that what you have to offer will fill a need for them.